Hello everyone, it’s been a while since I’ve shared one of my life etiquette posts. I thought about a lot of topics, and frankly, I was reluctant to share because I was experiencing “blockage” on topics that I thought would be interesting and noteworthy for you.
Well, that’s it! How could the subject of academic success not be important? I’m not just talking about reading, writing and ‘rithmetic’. I’m talking about preparing to engage with others for fruitful relationships.
As we prepare to return to school, let us remember that it is not just students who need to be prepared, but everyone involved in the education system – parents, bus drivers, hall monitors, teachers, office staff, principals, coaches and yes, district officers and school board members.
You may have heard my motto, “manners are memorable”, so put your best foot forward and claim your place at the table. When you’re at the table, you’re in a better position to succeed.
Well, at any time, we can be at the “table together”. Imagine the “table” as an analogy for the different spaces and places where our lives intersect.
Here are some examples: The bus stop, the school bus and the public bus, the classroom, the district council meeting and, of course, the cafeteria.
Now imagine the table with guests who reflect the diversity of our population – age differences, cultural and ethnic differences, differences in education and origin, etc. look like? How would that be? Scary picture, right?
In creating a positive and productive environment for all, we need to be mindful and intentional about how we come together around the table. Here are some tips to help us prepare for a successful school year. These are just a few. I will include a more comprehensive list of tips on my website: www.lifetiquetteinstitute.com.
Whether it’s kindergarten, college, or work, establish a routine to get you ready for school or the workday. If you’re a working parent, then you know you want to achieve your calm and serene workplace so you can have a productive day. Your children need the same.
You might encounter some resistance from older children, so be sure to involve them in establishing a routine. Set meal time, bath time, bedtime, wake up and prep time, study time, screen time and play time /Recreation.
Whether it’s starting a new school or starting a new job or even entering a new construction site, children, young people and adults can feel the jitters. They may feel nervous and anxious about entering a new situation.
To help overcome or at least cope with new situations, consider these strategies: Identify and affirm your strengths (your child’s strengths and positive attributes). Arrange a visit before the first day and familiarize yourself (your child) with the environment.
Play games that encourage communication and the expression of thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Practice introduction skills: say your name, make eye contact, smile and discuss certain topics.
Discuss expectations for your home environment as well as expectations for all areas of the day – bus, school, hallways and common areas, classroom, cafeteria, library, and office.
If your child (or you) is super introverted and painfully shy, you may need a little more preparation than others. Seek help to overcome shyness, including television programs, groups or clubs, or therapeutic intervention.
Other preparations that can help overcome nervousness and anxiety are getting physical or tangible things in order: selecting your wardrobe (what you are going to wear). Try to select your outfits for one week at a time. It can be done, and you’ll appreciate it once you get started.
Make lunch menus if you eat lunch. Pack your backpack, school bag, or briefcase with the supplies you need for school and/or work. Get a bird’s-eye view of the land – the physical school or the office building.
Again, whether you are a child or an adult, this helps establish open and respectful communication. Some ways to start on the “right foot” is to learn the names. This includes bus drivers, teachers, and cafeteria workers – anyone you or your child comes into contact with during the day.
Parents may feel more comfortable and more willing to support a teacher if they know their background, experience, and teaching style. Be an advocate for your child, the teachers and the school.
Some of the most important things we can do to succeed in school and at work are to practice etiquette at school and at work.